Why Consulting with an Attorney Before the Holidays Can Save Your Sanity in a Post-Holiday Divorce

Written by Allie Rasmussen

Divorce can be a difficult and emotionally charged process, and the decision to end a marriage is never taken lightly. Many couples contemplating divorce choose to wait until after the holidays to file for various reasons, such as maintaining family traditions or avoiding potential conflict during festive seasons. While postponing the divorce itself might be a sensible choice for some, itโ€™s essential to understand that consulting with an attorney before the holidays can be an extremely wise and practical step. In this article, we will discuss why having a consultation with an attorney now, even if you are waiting until after the holidays to file for divorce, is an excellent idea.

Get Informed and Plan Strategically

A divorce is a complex legal process with many aspects to consider, such as property division, child custody, spousal support, and more. Consulting with an attorney well in advance can help you understand the legal implications of your situation, your rights, and your potential obligations. It is also an opportunity for you to get answers to the questions you likely already have in a private, confidential conversation. By gaining this knowledge before the holidays, you can make more informed decisions about your future and start planning strategically. This knowledge can help you avoid costly mistakes and make informed decisions about your divorce strategy.

Prepare Financially

Divorce often involves significant financial changes, including the division of assets and liabilities, potential alimony, and child support. Having a consultation with an attorney allows you to assess your financial situation and understand how it may change after the divorce. This can help you create a budget, establish financial goals, and take necessary steps to secure your financial future, which is crucial even if youโ€™re waiting until after the holidays to file.

Explore Alternative Dispute Resolution Methods

During your consultation, you can discuss alternative dispute resolution methods, such as mediation or uncontested divorce, with your attorney. These approaches can be less adversarial and more amicable, making the process less emotionally draining and less expensive for all parties involved. By exploring these options early on, you may be better equipped to choose the most suitable path for your divorce when the time comes.

Protect Your Interests

Waiting until after the holidays to file for divorce doesnโ€™t mean you should wait to protect your interests. Consulting with an attorney early on allows you to take steps to safeguard your rights, assets, and relationships with your children. Your attorney can advise you on actions you can take now to ensure a smoother transition when the divorce process begins.

Emotional Support and Guidance

Divorce is not just a legal process; itโ€™s an emotional one as well. Your attorney can give you guidance that may lighten your emotional load during this challenging time. And they can help you manage your expectations so you can deal with the emotional toll of the divorce.

Divorce is a life-changing event that requires careful consideration and preparation. Consulting with an attorney before the holidays can be a proactive step toward a smoother transition into the post-holiday divorce process, ultimately leading to a more favorable outcome for all parties involved.


This article should not be construed as legal advice. Situations areย unique from one another and it is impossible to provide legal advice for every situation without knowing the individual facts.


If you would like to set up a consultation, contact Hightower Reff Law today.

Last updated Dec 17, 2025
Allie Rasmussen

About the Author

Allie Rasmussen

As the recipient of the CALI award for excellence in Marriage and Divorce, Allie Rasmussen is a dedicated attorney at Hightower Reff Law that practices family law with specialization in divorce (including collaborative and uncontested), mediation, asset and property division, child custody and support, and paternity and parental rights.

Allie focused on family law while earning her Juris Doctor from Creighton University School of Law. While at Creighton, she was a member of the Jessup International moot court competition team. Allie currently volunteers for the Special Olympics and is an active member of the Robert M. Spire Inns of Court.

When sheโ€™s not working, you can find Allie on the golf course, baking in the kitchen, or enjoying time with friends and family.

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