What to Expect from Your Lawyer – Five Key Reasons You Need to Pick your Battles in Court

Written by Sarah M. Hart

When you hire an attorney, youโ€™re not just hiring a professionalโ€”youโ€™re choosing an advocate. At Hightower Reff Law, we believe in clear communication, ethical practice, and unwavering support. Hereโ€™s what to expect from your lawyerโ€”and what to do if things go off track.

Attorney-Client Communication

Attorney-client privilege protects most communications between you and your lawyer. This confidentiality ensures you can speak openly without fear your words will be used against you.

When you first meet with your lawyer, itโ€™s essential to agree on communication preferences: how youโ€™ll be contacted, how often, and what updates to expect. Good lawyer communication will keep you informed at every major step of your case.

What to Do if Your Lawyer Doesnโ€™t Respond

A delay in attorney-client communication doesnโ€™t always mean neglect. Valid reasons include:

If your lawyer is persistently unresponsive, document your attempts and consider contacting the managing partner or seeking new representation. Avoid lashing out or threatening legal actionโ€”it rarely helps resolve the issue.

Should You Tell Your Lawyer Everything?

Yesโ€”your lawyer is your advocate, not your judge. We can only protect you with the full picture. While itโ€™s natural to fear judgment, withholding information often backfires in court.

Exceptions to confidentiality are rare and typically involve preventing a crime. In sensitive situations, I approach conversations with empathy and transparency. Weโ€™re in this together.

Professional Ethics for Lawyers

Lawyer misconduct includes fraud, conflicts of interest, or violating confidentiality. Disciplinary measures can range from private reprimands to disbarment. You deserve ethical representationโ€”never settle for less.

Attorney Competence

A competent lawyer is knowledgeable, prepared, and responsive. Clients have a right to effective legal representation. Signs of competence include:

  • Clear explanations of legal options
  • Timely filing of court documents
  • Regular updates
  • Strategic planning and trial preparation

Mistakes can happen, but chronic errors or lack of understanding are red flags. If you’re concerned, seek a second opinion or contact your state bar association.

Lawyer Fees

Attorney fee agreements should clearly outline billing frequency, hourly rates, and itemized costs. Ask about potential extra charges before signing. Common legal billing methods include hourly, flat fee, and contingency fees (most common in personal injury cases).

If you have concerns about typical lawyer fees and billing, ask questions early. Transparency is key to a strong attorney-client relationship.

Lawyer Expectation FAQs

Is a Lawyer an Agent of a Client?

Yes. A lawyer acts on your behalf and must act in your best interest within the bounds of the law.

What Is a Contingency Lawyer?

A contingency lawyer is paid only if you win your case. This is common in injury or wrongful death lawsuitsโ€”not in family law or criminal cases.

What Do I Do If My Lawyer Isnโ€™t Fighting for Me?

You deserve an advocate whoโ€™s as committed as you are. If your lawyer seems disinterested, express your concerns in writing. If nothing changes, consider switching attorneys or filing a complaint with the state bar association.

Can I Fight My Case in Court?

Absolutelyโ€”but with legal guidance, your chances of success are far better. Whether itโ€™s negotiating a settlement or advocating at trial, weโ€™re here to help you stand strong.

What Are the Responsibilities of a Lawyer?

A lawyerโ€™s responsibilities include advising, representing, and advocating for their client. They are also responsible for legal research, interpreting laws, and negotiating settlements on behalf of clients.


This article should not be construed as legal advice. Situations are different and itโ€™s impossible to provide legal advice for every situation without knowing the individual facts.


At Hightower Reff Law, our legal experts are knowledgeable advocates that provide compassionate support. With a variety of practice areas, we can advise and represent you in most family law cases. Contact us today to schedule your free consultation!

Last updated Aug 5, 2025
Sarah M. Hart

About the Author

Sarah M. Hart

Sarah M. Hart, a senior associate attorney at Hightower Reff Law, represents survivors of domestic violence and human trafficking. She also practices asset and property division, child custody, family law, divorce (including collaborative and uncontested), mediation, protection orders, guardianship and conservatorship, and paternity and parental rights.

Sarah earned her Juris Doctor from Creighton University School of Law. Sarah began her career helping parents and children navigate the juvenile court system. She now is an active member of the Junior League of Omaha, serves on its board, and participates in the leagueโ€™s volunteering and fundraising efforts.

Outside the firm, Sarah completes 20-mile taco rides in Iowa and travels with her Corgi, Winnie.

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